Life's Messy, Live Happy: 

Things Don't Have to Be Perfect for You to Be Content


A simple shift in thinking can change everything you believe about your own happiness.

By the time we become adults, most of us have joined the religion of suffering, which preaches that unless circumstances are controlled, life will be a mess. We compare ourselves to others and speculate about an impossible-to-know future, holding out hope for an improved life through getting ahead, fulfilling passion, or finding true love. But the idea that happiness comes from putting effort toward altering one’s circumstances is harmful and backward. What if we instead learned to understand that circumstances can rarely be controlled, and that life is, and always will be, messy?

From that starting point, we could learn to use our minds to create happiness despite life’s ever-changing circumstances and events. Life’s Messy, Live Happy by Cy Wakeman is about dramatically changing the level of happiness you feel in your daily life, by learning to disconnect happiness from external forces, stop worrying about the future, and realize that most of your negative feelings are about things that never even happened.

Wakeman is a credible, relatable teacher―a business owner, mother, and community member who has lived her philosophy and achieved profound happiness and success in a crazy, messy life. Filled with concrete daily practices and true stories that are hilarious, painful, and poignant, this book will change everything: your perspective, your focus, and your energy level for everyday life.

Cy Wakeman


Cy Wakeman is a drama researcher, international thought leader, and New York Times bestselling author of Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace, Reality-Based Leadership, and No Ego. Voted World's Top #1 Leadership Professional for 2021, Wakeman has spent 25 years cultivating a revolutionary new approach to leadership that has evolved teams at many of the top Fortune 100 companies globally. Wakeman’s work has helped organizations and individuals all over the world learn to live peacefully beyond drama and achieve incredible results in their workplace and worldplace.


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Other Books from Cy:
Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace
REALITY-BASED RULES OF THE WORKPLACE: Know What Boosts Your Value, Kills Your Chances, & Will Make You Happier
No Ego
NO EGO: How Leaders Can Cut the Cost of Workplace Drama, End Entitlement, and Drive Big Results
Reality-Based Leadership
REALITY-BASED LEADERSHIP: Ditch the Drama, Restore Sanity to the Workplace, and Turn Excuses into Results